New Porn Resource Helps Assault Survivors Rediscover Pleasure

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Photo credit: Daily Mail; Neville Elder

Photo credit: Daily Mail; Neville Elder

You don’t need to consult the host of available statistics about sexual violence to know that the crime is a commanding force, one that can stun and stunt its victims, one that can take effort to push past.

Recently, rape survivors have been given a voice by the media, encouraged to speak about their experiences as a means of moving forward and of informing the public about the specific losses suffered at the hand of assault. Jessica Knoll, author of Luckiest Girl Alive, recently confessed on Lena Dunham’s Lenny Letter that a crime detailed in her book — a violent gang rape — actually happened to her. A woman attacked by Stanford student Brock Turner voiced her anger over his lenient sentence on BuzzFeed. And these potent confessions are only the most recent in a wave of public outcries. 

In 2014, aware of discussion’s healing powers, London nurse Pavan Amara founded My Body Back, an organisation devoted to providing health care services to rape victims. In addition to cervical exams and STI screenings, these services meet mental health needs; the organization hosts a quarterly meet-up called Café V, which aims to help women love their bodies after violence. Sessions have explored new ways of achieving orgasm, experimenting with BDSM, fantasies and flashback triggers.

Over the course of several sessions, those involved with My Body Back noticed a trend in how attendees preferred to reintroduce themselves to sex. Although the narrative about female pleasure — informed in part by psychological research, in part by overblown mythologies — would have you believe that women would prefer to experience sex as a couple, many women at Café V preferred to masturbate as a means of reintroduction to pleasure. 

Read the full Huffington Post article: http://goo.gl/tiSZfy