The Four P's of Porn

Because of this gig I’ve had to do something that no one should ever have to do: Watch porn when you’re not horny. When you’re horny porn is a wondrous and magical thing; a thing that allows you to vicariously live out fantasies and explore some of your darker desires.

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When you’re not horny porn becomes something altogether different. You can start to see why a lot of women take issue with their portrayal in porn and begin to understand the current uproar regarding porn and its alleged effect on male/female relations.

After way too much flaccid porn consumption, I’ve been able to narrow down how women are typically depicted in porn into one of four categories:

Prey: Fake casting agents, drunk college girls, blackmail... Anything to get a woman over the barrel, so to speak. A good portion of scenes feature women being forced or tricked into sexual situations against their will. “Fuck me or else” type scenarios. I get it. There’s power there and “the rape fantasy” goes both ways.

Prostitute: According to the world of porn, every woman has a price. Offer enough money and she’ll forgo her morals, values, and personal health/safety to happily slob your knob. 

Prize: This one is a bit confusing, simply because it almost makes it look like the woman is empowered. She offers herself up as a reward for good behaviour, to get what she wants, a thank you, or as an apology for some misdeed. The guy gets to do whatever he likes just for being a decent human being.

Plaything: Regardless of the set up, women are typically there to be something for the man to amuse himself upon. Her pleasure is rarely addressed and really only seen as a testament to his prowess/size/stamina.

I spoke to several of my female friends while researching this piece and each backed up the statistics I’ve found online: Women who do watch porn tend to gravitate towards same sex couples or scenes that show a man pleasing a woman. They prefer scenes that depict a couple enjoying each other to those that show a woman being used. Even women who prefer their real life sexual encounters to fall into one of the above categories. Mainly because, after they are finished being treated like a sex toy for an hour or so, they are appreciated as a person again after. Something not shown in porn geared towards a male audience.

I also understand the counter-argument: A rational adult male understands that porn is just fantasy, no more real than any other form of entertainment.

The problem with this is that far too many people can’t or won’t understand the difference between fantasy and reality. How many people do you know buy into the Hollywood version of “true love”? How many people do you know who are waiting for their Prince Charming? Hell, how many guys reek of Axe Body Spray because the flashy commercials tell them it will attract bikini clad women? We, as a species, aren’t as intelligent as we think we are. And when young men are exposed to porn, without a credible counter argument, far too many take what they see as gospel. 

I appreciate that porn is a product. It caters to the demands of its consumers. We men like to have power and control. We like to be pleased and taken care of. Porn allows us a taste of that if we aren’t getting it in our real lives. I don’t think porn is to blame for society's inability to see women as sexual equals. But, I think if it tried, it could help encourage more positive interactions between the sexes.

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